I am currently reading (actually listening to) The New Psycho-Cybernetics. I am almost done listening to it, and it’s a book I highly recommend. In it, Dr. Maltz states that “success is built on success”. He goes on to explain how neural pathways are created in the brain due to a series of small successes. When you do something repetitively, you create a new habit. The automation of this habit occurs because of the neural pathways. When you create small goals, and you attain them, you get that feeling of being successful. This helps to motivate you to keep on attaining goals. The winning feeling becomes a high, and you want to keep on feeling it. The pattern is also creating new neural pathways, which forms a habit. Like any other habit, according to Dr. Maltz, success is a habit.
I looked this up online to get some extra references and came across this quote from Sumner Redstone “Success is not built on success. It’s built on failure. It’s built on frustration. Sometimes it’s built on catastrophe.” This seems to be an opposing statement when compared to Dr. Maltz’s – but is it?
Succcess Or Failure, Which Is It?
I believe that both statements are true and that you can’t have one without the other. There are always opposing ends of a spectrum. There is no vacuum; there needs to be some opposing attribute. That being said, I believe that failure and success are not complete opposites, but rather are very close to each other. They run parallel. Apathy is probably the closest thing to being the opposite of success. A total lack of interest will guarantee that you will not be successful. Failure, on the other hand, means you are attempting at being successful, and as you persevere, you will find success.
Goal setting is crucial. You have to strive towards something; otherwise, you are standing still. Standing still doesn’t mean that you will remain in the same place. The world moves forward, and as you remain idle, it advances without you, and you fall behind. If you’re are not setting up goals for yourself, you are apathetic (absence or suppression of passion, emotion, or excitement). It’s not failure that you should be concerned about, it’s apathy.
Take a moment to consider this when it comes to goal setting. How many people are out of work today because they have not acquired a new skill? Acquiring a new skill is directly related to goal setting. When you strive for something, you realize that along the way, you will need to know more than what you already do. This awareness then causes you to acquire new skills. Acquiring new skills will allow you to diversify and increase your value in the eyes of an employer. If you’re going out on your own, new skills are necessary to be able to meet the needs of your business. We need to be very adaptable nowadays. Remember the saying, “Jack of all trades, master of none”? Well, this is no longer true.
Afraid Of Failure? Don’t Be
If you are afraid of failure, it’s time to shift your concern to apathy. Start associating the word failure with success. Apathy should be the word that describes the guarantee of an unsuccessful life. Most importantly, start thinking about what you want, and start working towards it.